Pretty vague title I know. A little confusing, "are you saying be patient but not patient?" If so, what the f**k does that mean? OK, pump the brakes their guy, I'll explain!
When I say be patient but impatient at the same time, essentially all I mean is you have to learn when to relax and trust the process, but also know that there are times when you have to tell yourself there is no need to be patient and wait,. I need to go for it now, the worst that happens is that I do not try see and I live with that regret and doubt forever.
Patience is the key to success in my opinion but also being impatient is just as important and can spark something in you, you never knew was possible. Can you learn this be patient but impatient at the same time? Honestly it is something you can read about in a sense. Like, anything with practice comes perfection. More importantly you need to learn when to be patient but at times you need to know when not to be patient.
For me, I choose to be patient with working out, my health, love, and other daily encounters but some things I am impatient with it. For example, I am a 23-year-old youth hockey coach and skills coach but when I see these coaching positions that may be out of my "scope" or "expertise" I do not tell myself, "No you are not good enough. You need to put in a little more work over the next few years and then apply for it when you are more qualified." No, I say F that. I may not be 100% qualified but the position is hiring, I am interested in the position therefore I am going to apply. If I do not get it, so be it, move on and wait for the next position to open. To me, I think this way because I am confident in my abilities, I know if I apply for a job that is perhaps "too much" for me to handle or out of my expertise. I will find a way to make it work and be the best at at it. Again, there are people who tell themselves, "you are not qualified for that job do not apply, work at this role for another 4-5 years, gain experience then apply", which at times is useful but what is the wrong is going for it and applying perhaps you are 75-80 percent qualified? I do not see any wrong in going for it, being impatient and trying to shoot for the stars in those situations. These same situations relate to sports as well that summer camp you always wanted to attend, that travel team you always wanted to play for, the coach you always wanted to work with, etc. If you are on the cusp, go for it, be impatient.
When it comes to things like health and working out. I have become extremely patient. Take this for example, if you are some what new to working out or took a year or so off and get back into the gym. What you did when you were working out you will not be able to do right away. It will take time and patience until you get back to your old weight. Fat loss to me is the same way now obviously you can become extremely impatient with losing weight but you will ruin your long-term sustainability. OR even having patience with other people and their opinions not everything needs to be a knee-jerk reaction, taking some time to sit and think is always helpful. I have found the more I think before I speak or do not immediately respond to a situation or even take a deep breathe and think about the long term affects my words may have on the other person has allowed me to be patient in other areas in my life. (This is what I mean by training patience)
When is it ok to be impatient though? That is really subjective to you. I cannot tell you when you should and should not be impatient but if this helps anyone out there be a little less hesitant then so be it. I often see online these older generational people, the baby boomers, the 40-60 year olds out there saying that young kids need to earn their keep, they should not be in leadership roles or higher up roles at a young age. Which honestly the majority of 18-30-year-olds probably should not, that does not mean it should stop you. Don't be impatient when it comes to something you want to do, do not be impatient when it comes to trying out for that Junior A team, AAA team, AA team, etc. Look the worst that comes from it is you do not make the team, don't get the job, the business fails. You live and learn and get back to the drawing board.
Look at this way. Say you do go out and try out for that team, join that summer team, attend that camp and something clicks for you, you end up really fitting in, the coach likes you and you play above the competition level. To me, when it comes to being impatient, I like to throw myself in difficult situations, uncomfortable ones to say the least, I could just be patient and wait until something falls on my plate or I "gain credibility" but to me I'd rather go out and try to make it off a limp, go out and try as much as possible, fail as much as possible and see what I learn. Being impatient is extremely easy but you have to know the right and wrong times to be impatient, and as I said patience is a virtue in life. Patience is the key to success in my eyes but impatience can inspire you to do something you never believed you ever could.