My experience with expecting the worst and being prepared for disappointment.
The other day I had to fly from Washington DC to New York. Before the flight I woke up around 5:00 am to work out, after I worked out, I packed (last minute as usual), got my car ready, read for about 30 minutes, and then ate breakfast. I left breakfast perhaps too late around 8:15 am to drop off my car then take a shuttle. It was about an hour drive with no traffic to get to the parking lot where I was leaving my car. I parked at 9:30 am, took a shuttle at 10:00 am. My flight was boarding at 10:35 am and leaving at 11:00 am.
We arrived at the airport by 10:15 am. I checked in at 10:15 am. A message appeared on my screen saying "you're flight is over sold. Do you want to volunteer to take a different flight, please?" I said no. Carried onto to my gate, boarded, sat down and took off by 11:00 am.
Now you may be wondering “ok so what is the point. How did you expect the worst situation?” And some of you may be thinking why expecting the worst situation is beneficial at all.
Well first when you expect the worst you get your mind ready for disappointment so when disappointment happens you will not be triggered by every little thing after that like when why the flight was over sold to start with. You won't be annoyed by the crying baby or lady screaming on her phone. And you wont constantly look to pick at every little thing around you. You’ll take the disappointing news like having to change flights with grace and calmly. And not be bothered by such a minor event like a changing of flights.
Let's be honest we are guilty of this. Something insignificant happens to us, we react without any thought, rather we react with pure emotion. We pick at the smallest, minor things in the day and let it carry on with us all day. Anyone we encounter we automatically have an attitude with or are not interested in because that one minor event that caused us to get into this state of mind. This is the way I prepare for the worst. I went through the situations in my head "say I do have to change flights and they ask me to take a later flight." How would I react and would that reaction be beneficial to myself and those around me. Second thing I did was not take it personal. Meaning I did not take them asking me to change flights personal. Because we are all guilty of this, when something happens we immediately think this was done on purpose as if the world is out to get us. When really it just happened to be you that day. Therefore I did not allow this event to be personal in my head before hand. Third thing I did. I would run encounters through my head as if they did ask me to change how that conversation would go and what I would say. I do that for about three scenarios. Lastly, I did not allow these thoughts to go any further than this. Instead I acknowledged them and did not judge myself for thinking this way. I let it be, accepted it and moved on after I was done. All this allows me to take disappointment with a much better state of mind and attitude.
Face it, we all can relate to this. And I am sure we have all had something similar like this happen where we had a knee-jerk reaction, caused a scene, and ended up thinking to ourselves 30 minutes after the fact that we just acted like total fools and have embarrassed ourselves. Now, I understand we cannot prepare like this with everything in life. Sometimes insignificant events are going to happen out of the blue. Like a car breaking down right after you got it looked out by the mechanic. But, still doing this works even in cases like that. When minor events happen out of the blue, take a deep breathe, step away and take two plus minutes before reacting and think.
What I am asking you now, how will you react the next time something insignificant happens? Like an adult aware of their surroundings and emotions or like a child who just had their favorite toy taken away?
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